Only the Brave can Forgive

"When I say forgiveness, I do not mean forgetting, or approving, or absolving, or self-sacrifice.  I man understanding.  Being able to say, "I know you did the best you could; if you could have done better, you would have."  without the words getting stuck in my throat, is what I call forgiveness."  Suzanne and Sidney Simon, "Forgiveness: How to Make Peace With Your Past, and Get on With Your Life.

U have often added - with the information you had a the time.  Sometimes there are big missing pieces that affected the behaviour  we have experienced.